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  • Beta blockers - they don’t cross the blood brain barrier and help calm the adrenaline response. If you’re prone to panic, anxiety, trauma triggers, etc. They’re very helpful for my CPTSD triggers.

    Qi Gong

    Listening to a Plum Village dharma talk.

    Walking meditation is good when very restless or anxious. Body scans when trying to build deep states of physical relaxation. Sitting meditation for deep mental calm.

    Pendulation works well when working on an overwhelming task. Permission to take small bites/small steps out of something difficult essentially.

    Reminding myself that the stressor and the sensations of stress are all temporary is good for acute stress, but chronic stress can require radical acceptance instead and changes in lifestyle/habits/thinking patterns.

    Oh I almost forgot, switching from coffee to tea. Although I don’t do that most mornings. When I skip the coffee my anxiety is much less.







  • You can do it on your floor if you take enough ketamine.

    In all serious though, not really. I think other people already pointed out why.

    However you can also learn to close the sense gates, without drugs or a bathtub. Later Jhana meditations do this.

    And even just you relaxing in your bathtub with your ears under the water, that’s a step towards that stuff. The whole idea is to get very relaxed and minimize the stimulation from your senses, so that your mind can just relax and drift and be.

    It doesn’t need to be full sensory deprivation to get the benefits in other words.


  • treefrog@lemm.eetoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.worldWhat is *love*?
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    3 days ago

    Buddhism defines metta as loving kindness, which also requires understanding because if we don’t understand another person’s needs it’s difficult to be loving and kind towards them.

    In the show, what the person was trying to say is, I am feeling insecure that you may be more attached to her than you are to me. I.e., I’m scared you’re going to leave me for her.

    Which is what we generally mean by love in our culture. At least what we mean by romantic love. A sense of attachment to the other person.

    This isn’t always a bad thing. I can be a little shy so when I am in public I tend to show a lot of attachment to my girlfriend, at least until I get comfortable in the space. But it can be a bad thing, if someone is so attached that they let it get in the way of treating their partner with kindness. Act manipulative or aggressive when the person pulls away, for example.