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  • oxjox@lemmy.mltoFediverse@lemmy.mlReddit just isn't how it used to be.
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    2 days ago

    Reddit has been generic for several years now. It’s, mostly, addictive trash content. I miss individual subs but the algorithm for popular / front page posts is doing the same thing every other social platform is doing. If that’s your jam, go for it. I value my time enough that I don’t need to be entertained by an algorithm. I hate it. A lot.

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    I mean, I just went to reddit.com and the top post is a 21 year old married woman asking how to tell their 18 year old cousin they stink because they only shower every 3-4 days. THIS is engaging content? WTF is wrong with you people? This is why I’m thrilled to have left that dumbass platform.




  • Absolutely. Apple, Amazon, Google, Vudu, Movies Anywhere (off the top of my head).

    What I recently learned is that some physical discs will come with download codes that can be used, once, on any of these services. I was gifted the Alien box set which was nice but I don’t have a Blu-ray player. The code allowed me to add the films to my iTunes account.

    Now, how long I can watch those movies until a license runs out is another question. I’ve yet to find a way to download a movie to disc for backup. Because, technically, you don’t buy a movie, you buy the license to watch it. This is even the case for physical discs.





  • Relationships require the attention of your entire body and mind. If you don’t find a place or activity to refocus your attention, you’re left with a void it once occupied. Take time to appreciate what you had but set a limit for yourself to move on.

    Personally, I’ve always come out of a relationship with a better understanding of myself and more motivation to be a better person. I take what I’ve learned and direct that towards self improvement, hobbies, new interests.






  • Edit: Actually, re-reading your post, I’d shorten my entire response to: why not also ask men why they adopt the goatee trucker guy look?

    The problem with all of this, in my opinion, is the societal stereotypes and expectations on men and women. Requiring people to fit into a classification for the convenience of others does not allow them to “just be who they want to be”. Who are you to tell someone they should look one way or another? If we could all just accept people dressing how they want or enjoying the pleasures of life however they want, most of this entire cultural conversation would be irrelevant. People struggling to conform to the stereotypes set by others is causing mental and emotional instability. Thankfully, things are getting better and, most of us, are accepting of people for however they want to present themselves. Personally, I don’t believe that means they need to “identify” as a male or female but that’s what they need to do in order to subvert expectations.

    Why do you dress the way you do or like the things you do? Why do you believe someone who is unlike you needs to justify how they see themselves and what they like? I dress and act the way I do because it’s what feels like “me”. I’m a guy and look at the vast majority of “male models” (whatever that means) and find I have nothing in common with them at all. To be honest, I’m more comfortable dressing like an old lady than a “trucker guy look”. So, are you going to question why I dress the way I do as well?




  • oxjox@lemmy.mltoSelfhosted@lemmy.worldSelf-hosting Photo Alternatives
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    1 month ago

    Fair enough. Plex may not have the bells and whistles but it’s simple and intuitive to use. I’ve also tried the QuMagie app on my QNAP which does have all those features but found it to be a bit more cumbersome than it was worth.

    I tried Google Photos briefly as well and was very shocked at how bad it is, compared to Apple Photos. It took me several days just to figure out how to delete more than one picture at a time. I have to assume it’s much more robust on an Android than on an iPhone but even their web interface was horrible.



  • I like Lemmy as a substitute for a general non-specific social forum to engage with others. It’s not as popular so it’s more intimate here.

    What’s missing is the general popularity and existence of robust communities. I think this is a good thing because it drives me to find other more specific websites and forums related to my interests. Some of those communities are harder to find and have less content though.

    There’s a middle ground between Lemmy and Reddit that doesn’t yet exist. The hope (I think) is that the infrastructure will mimic the best of Reddit while rejecting the worst of Reddit.

    I was complaining about the Reddit echo chamber for probably close to ten years. The arrows have not been used as designed for a long time. They’re supposed to mark an item as relevant or not relevant, not as a like or dislike. Had they been used properly… well, let’s put it this way, AI is now being trained based on what people like, not based on what information is relevant or correct.

    Incidentally, I was brought to Lemmy for a reason similar to you. I posted one innocuous question on one sub that got me banned from a totally unrelated sub where I wasn’t even a member (evidently, engaging with one sub, regardless of your reasons or opinions, is enough for another sub to ban you, even if you fully support the other sub).


  • I usually have three or four dreams a night. I often wake up thinking I should write them down as plots for short stories. I’ve sketched out a handful of the really far out ones (like when Colin Farrell popped out of a statue in front of a frat house to warn me that Bill Gates was chasing me).


  • I’m not a parent, a teacher, or a therapist. However, I was bullied from kindergarten through tenth grade. So, here’s my two cents based on my own experience having not put it into practice.

    The bully is a bully for a reason just as the bullied is bullied for a reason. You can not control the environment that created a bully but you can attempt to help your bullied child. If I were a parent, I would take a good hard look at my child and ask their teachers why they may be bullied. As a parent, I would help my kid overcome those traits if possible. In some cases, there may not be an immediate solution that you can provide. Your child, as it was the case for me, may be in an environment that’s detrimental to their development.

    It’s not so much about “standing up to the bully” and telling your kid to do that is, in my opinion, counter productive. Lack of confidence is one reason a child may be bullied and gaining confidence is how to thwart ongoing threats. Their confidence will be what stands up to the bully on its own.

    Confidences is gained through social interactions. Support your child by exposing them to more activities that make them uncomfortable. I quit soccer and karate lessons too quickly and my mom didn’t push me to keep doing them or really support anything I was ever interested in. This taught me it was easier to hide from awkwardness and give up on things I had a passing interest in if I wasn’t good enough at it from the start. I still struggle with this in my 40s. I may not be bullied in school anymore but life itself is always there to judge me and tell me how weak I am.

    It was the summer between tenth and eleventh grade when I started to hang out with more people (like, two) around the neighborhood. We would skateboard, ride bikes, play street hockey, go out to eat pizza, etc. With a small group of people who had a little more influence / confidence in school, I guess my confidence grew enough that people to be more friendly towards me.

    I probably have a poor impression of how kids are growing up today. I assume most kids are in their homes playing video games and watching TikTok. As much confidence as someone may gain at home by being really good at something they do online, this doesn’t transfer to the real world or the shared world young people experience.