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  • This is a very personal question, and it’s really just whatever you are comfortable with. I personally:

    • Try to be open about it and my experiences with friends, if only because I’m sure people had suspected I had it and I so wish someone had mentioned it. I’m willing to cut friendships if I’m judged negatively, but ADHD is common in my social circles so it hasn’t been a huge issue.
    • Have been debating with my ADHD siblings how to broach the subject with my definitely ADHD parents. It’s definitely common among my extended relatives, but I just feel it’s not worth the fight.
    • Would be very guarded in a workplace. Accommodations for ADHD are hilariously trivial asks, but I’m skeptical I’ll ever work somewhere I can (safely) get them.
    • Try to avoid the subject with older generations.


  • It’s easy* to setup Hashicorp Vault with your own CA and do automated cert generation and rotation, if you are willing to integrate everything into Vault and install your root CA everywhere. (*not really harder than any other Vault setup, but yaknow). I may go down this route eventually since I don’t think a device I don’t control has ever accessed anything I selfhost, or ever will.

    I have a wildcard subdomain pointing to my public IP, and forward port 80 to an LXC container with certbot. Port 80 appears closed outside the brief window when certbot is renewing certs. Inside my network I have my PiHole configured to return the local IP for each service.

    Nothing exposed to the internet at all. There is a record of my hostnames on Let’s Encrypt but not concerned if someone will, say, deduce apollo-idrac is the iDRAC service for a Dell rackmount server called apollo and the other Greek/Roman gods are VMs on it. Seemed like a house of cards that would never work reliably, but three odd years later I only have issues if a DNS resolver insists on bypassing my PiHole. And that DNS resolver is SystemD-ResolveD which should crawl back into whatever hellhole it came out of.


  • They could hijack your site at any time, but with a copy of your live private certs they (or more likely whatever third party that will invariably breach your domain provider) can decrypt your otherwise secure traffic.

    I don’t think there’s significant real tangible risk since who cares about your private selfhosted services and I’d be more worried about the domain being hijacked, and really any sort of network breach is probably interested in finding delicious credit card numbers and passwords and crypto private keys to munch on. If someone got into my network, spying on my Jellyfin streaming isn’t what I’m going to be worried about.

    But it is why CSRs are used.


  • I wouldn’t be. None of these are prescribed for ADHD minus a few at the top. Taking an extended release stimulant isn’t going to put you on the path to needing antipsychotics. Or paying a vet under the table for ketamine for your ‘horse’ or whatever the point of this meme is.


  • I’ve found the idea of LXC containers to be better than they are in practice. I’ve migrated all of my servers to Proxmox and have been trying to move various services from VMs to LXC containers and it’s been such a hassle. You should be able to directly forward disk block devices, but just could not get them to mount for an MinIO array - ended up just setting their entire contents to 100000:100000 and mounting them on the host and forwarding the mount point instead. Never managed to CAP_IPC_LOCK to work correctly for a HashiCorp Vault install. Docker in LXC has some serious pain points and feels very fragile.

    It’s damning that every time I have a problem with LXC the first search result will be a Proxmox forum topic with a Proxmox employee replying to the effect of “we recommend VMs over LXC for this use case” - Proxmox doesn’t seem to recommend LXC for anything. Proxmox + LXC is definitely better than CentOS + Podman, but my heart longs for the sheer competence of FreeBSD Jails.


  • The Fun part of ADHD is there’s nothing unique to ADHD. Being overwhelmed with anxiety doesn’t mean you have anxiety disorder. It’s when you have frequent overwhelming anxiety and it’s interfering with your life.

    Having a tendency to put things down and lose them doesn’t mean you have ADHD. Constantly having to find that screwdriver that was just in your hand and realizing that desk has been half complete for six months because you keep spending thirty seconds looking for it before getting distracted by other tasks? That’s ADHD. Unless it’s focus issues rooted in something else. Like anxiety or depression, which can cause ADHD like symptoms. But also ADHD can cause anxiety and depression, or be comorbid.

    That said, you are here voluntarily on an ADHD community finding common ground with an ADHD meme. If you’ve wondered specifically about ADHD or more broadly felt there’s something different about you’ve just never been able to put your finger on - this is your sign. My advice is to find a psychiatrist who really understand it, dig as deep as you can for hard evidence that you have or don’t have it, and keep an open mind to alternative explanations. A diagnosis of “no you don’t have ADHD” is also important information.



  • Honestly that’s where I would start. It takes some “no I’m in the driver’s seat, I decide what I’m working on, I decide when I’m done” reminders so I’m working on the right things, but I don’t really procrastinate. Unless it’s something I really don’t want to work on, but that’s kind of a different problem.

    If they’ve worked well in the past beyond the initial break in period I know some people do well with short breaks. Five days on, weekends off, though I would want to be functional outside of work days.




  • SirNuke@kbin.socialtoADHD@lemmy.worldHow do you deal with ADHD
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    11 months ago

    Poorly, in retrospect. The best period of my life was four ish years pre COVID when I got into the bad habit of drinking a lot of caffeine, without realizing that it was helping me. It was also inadvertently ripped away from me when I went remote and was cut off from my bottomless source of coffee and pop and energy drinks.

    One of my takeaways when I started proper medication is that I in fact did know all the organization tricks in the book - the missing piece was the medication, not knowledge.









  • Only issue I had with a similar setup is turns out the old HP desktop I bought didn’t support VT-d on the chipset, only on the CPU. Had do some crazy hacks to get it to forward a 10gbe NIC plugged into the x16 slot.

    Then I discovered the NIC I had was just old enough (ConnectX-3) that getting it to properly forward was finicky, so I had to buy a much more expensive ConnectX-4. My next task is to see if I can give it a virtual NIC, have OPNsense only listen to web requests on that interface, and use the host’s Nginx reverse proxy container for SSL.