Mindwandering while conversation/ sex was always annoying to me. I never understood why i am doing this and how to turn it off, cause “everyone else seems to get it right” and they made me feel bad for it.
It is importaint to talk about these stuff and reach out to people, who feel the same way.
God damn like 85% of this is me. Still ain’t gonna check and see if i really got it though 🤣
If you unironically use “time blindness” as an excuse for always being late, you are a complete moron.
Why? Not that i use that as an excuse. But why would that make you a moron?
Because being horrible with time is a predictable thing. As a human being, we have the ability to plan and act in ways that compensate for predictable weaknesses.
If you notice you’re always late, but you never try to leave earlier, you’re either a moron or an asshole.
It seems like you don’t understand the point of time blindness then. How do you “leave earlier” when you completely lose track of time?
Hell, even for work meetings, I have to have the most obnoxiously loud and annoying notification alert on my work computer that can be heard throughout the entire house, and I still end up late to some meetings, even though I’m already sitting at my desk.
Your post is like complaining that a blind person just needs to open their eyes if they want to see, or they’re just a moron or an asshole. It shows profound ignorance about the subject and complete lack of empathy for people who have a problem that you don’t have direct experience with.
It strikes me that your belief that someone is a moron or an asshole if they fail to leave earlier might be coming from a place of not understanding ADHD. You say “as a human being” which drastically oversimplifies and understates the irratic nature of the mind of someone suffering with the condition.
As someone who has ADHD, i believe i can say, with a fairly high degree of confidence, that you do not suffer with the condition. Or that if you do, you have found a good coping mechanism for issues with timekeeping. Or at the very least timekeeping is not one of the aspects of ADHD that affects you.
But to call someone an asshole or a moron because you dont understand how their mind works and you seem to think what works for one, works for all, is the most moronic and asshole-like thing that you can do.
I put it to you, that you have no idea what you are talking about, and despite the fact that alot of people mistake normal aspects of various personalities with full blown ADHD, and thusly self diagnose, in error, that your opinion on the simplicity of changing ones behaviour on a dime has no place on an ADHD forum.
I see. So you’d rather write multiple paragraphs of excuses instead of spending that time on coping with what you can.
I understand how this sub works now, and I’m disappointed. Bye.
I finally went in for an adult diagnosis yesterday and this is pretty much the entire checklist they went through.
I go in 2 months and cannot wait. I feel like my mind is in a fog and it’s only getting worse as I get older.
Same (re: mind
dogfog), unfortunately for me treatment hasn’t helped. But I’ve also discovered CFS (chronic fatigue syndrome) as another route to investigate.
